Have you ever sat in a restaurant...or any place for that matter, and watched people? I was sitting in a restaurant the other day, completely oblivious to the conversation at our own table (it involved co-workers of my husband and a sales rep who was treating us to the dinner -- it was a conversation all about business), and I happened to glance at the table next to us. Sitting there were about five females and one male in the bunch. One girl in the bunch seemed unique to me. She had coal black hair cropped off just below the ears, thick rimmed glasses, an artsy and modern necklace which had one large circular pendant. She looked classy, eccentric. And I thought to myself as I watched her body language as she engaged in a conversation with the others at her table..."I bet she's the type of girl I'd love to be friends with. I just bet she likes to talk about the "deeper" side of things...How interesting I bet she is."...(I don't know why I think this.... She just had that 'air' about her). And I became envious of her other friends at the table.
(I think these thoughts stem from the fact that I get tired of always only hitting the surface of things when I talk with others around me. Are all the doors under the first layer always closed? Are mine closed?)
All this is what I thought just based on a first impression, an assumption all from a couple minute glance...I never have and never will engage in a conversation with her. ....and I've already had an opinion about her, turned her into someone she may or may not be... And, oh how first impressions can deceive us! We can never judge a book by it's cover. And whose to say...maybe they're only scratching the surfaces, too, with their conversations.
But this was a reminder to myself...a reminder that things are usually not as they first appear to be.
If I'm really wishing for a friend like the false portrait I've painted by watching that other table, I've gotta ask myself.."Why is it that you don't have that kind of friend now?" Maybe I haven't looked hard enough. Maybe it's because I'm such an introvert and private person.
"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you"...right? Maybe I should open up and start conversations on the deeper side with others, and maybe they will too. Maybe I can become like her....not really like her...my own unique self, but with my presumption of what she might be like, to have that characteristic of what I'd like about someone else.
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